One of my most favourite things to do in the world is dance, or more specifically, to dance with my young nieces.
There is something about dancing with children that gives me the space to really let loose, not care how I look, and get in touch with my inner rockstar! There was a long period in my life where the only time I danced was when I was out with friends late at night and quite a few (let’s be honest – many!) champagnes down.
When my nieces arrived on the planet I felt like I had been reintroduced to my inner child. I think I had totally forgotten her and disconnected from her. A big part of that was how I moved my body. I hadn’t played on swings for years, hadn’t bombied in the pool like a hooligan, and I certainly hadn’t danced around the living room sober with total abandonment. I realised that by being a full-time adult, I was moving my body so differently and in such a limited way.
Over the last ten years as I have spent more time with my inner child, I have found that I have so much more pleasure in my life. Being with her makes me feel so free and filled with joy. On reflection I realise that I had forgotten how to be playful in pursuit of being an adult. And I had gotten very good at being an adult! One of the greatest gifts that my nieces have given me is to show me how to be a kid again and access that state very easily.
As simple as it sounds, dancing, playing “Apple On A Stick” (a hand clapping game that you play with another person), exploring the beach for shells, climbing trees, having handstand competitions in the pool, riding irresponsibly fast down a hill on our bikes, chasing each other around the garden, and shooting goals on the netball court is where my inner child likes to play.
Every single part of who we are is worthy of love and attention: our Inner Child, Queen, Teacher, Warrior Princess, Caregiver, Rebel, and all the other parts, both light and dark.
Honour them all by finding your ‘thing’: the thing that connects you powerfully to the other parts of yourself simultaneously.
For me, that is dancing with my nieces.