Today I was chatting with two beautiful ladies I work with and the conversation turned to the topic of “life is a journey, not a destination”. One of the ladies was sharing her experiences on achievement and how, once she achieves whatever her goal is, only then is she allowed to enjoy the fruits of her labour (or the fruits of her experience). That belief really challenged me for several different reasons. Mostly, because the enjoyment of the process is all determined by the outcome. Being in the now is not enough because the goal has not yet been realised. Don’t smell the roses, just keep on marching through, we are not there YET!
So what happens when the goal, for whatever reason, is not realised? Does that mean the process of going after the goal can no longer hold any joy or celebration?
I notice more and more that our world is obsessed with right and wrong and good and bad. I absolutely appreciate the power of contrast, yet so often we use it against ourselves. It is treated as a weapon to destroy our enjoyment in the NOW. If there is “right”, well here must be “wrong”.
“If I don’t get the outcome I want, well this all has been a waste of time and energy”, “It was meant to go this way but it didn’t so I won’t celebrate the journey of getting to here even though I may have learnt a lot”
Why are we so focused on finishing the race when we are smack bang in the middle of it?
Life is in the learning and if we continually pass the learning by because we are so focussed on the outcome, well, it is a huge injustice to ourselves and our creator. The danger of living a destination orientated life is that we only allow ourselves to celebrate our achievements once we have achieved them. We are wrong until we have arrived at right.
“Until I am living in the beautiful house, I am not really a success”, “Until, I have $200,000 in the bank, I am not really secure.”
I got to call it, it’s total and utter bullshit!
Imagine how different life could be if you woke up, ate a great breakfast, kissed your partner and kids and then announced that you are a success. I mean you are breathing, healthy, connected to others and have food on your table. That automatically puts you in the top percentages of people on the planet. Imagine how different life could be if you royally stuffed up the business deal and because of that, learnt something that you never would have come across any other way and were able to turn that into a deal that is 10 times bigger than anything you could have previously imagined? What if each day you focussed on the journey of your life with total appreciation, that you are right where you should be?
When I think of people who go on these amazing treks over months at a time, they talk about the moments along the way so much more than the moment they finished the journey. The moment of finishing is so, so sweet because of the preciousness of all those hours, days and weeks that have gone into getting them there.
The Now is where it’s at, enjoy the journey……